I’m a little late in posting this, but this was my first quiet time of 2007 at about 7:30 New Year’s morning. I just had to post this! It rocked my world and has really set me up to anticipate some wonderful times with God this year. Dawn and I prayed in this year to have the theme “More of Him” this year than last.
Having 6 children of varying ages and nationalities (half are adopted), I am always looking for what the Scripture says about family relationships, especially those between a father and his children. I was just floored when I read 1 Thessalonians during my first quiet time of the year.
I Thessalonians 2:1-12 (NIV)
11 For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children,
12 encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into his kingdom and glory.
This is how Paul defines Biblical fatherhood – “…encouraging, comforting and urging…” his ‘children’ to live lives worthy of God. The Amplified Bible says “… stimulating, encouraging, and charging you…”. I like that! I’m a huge fan of medieval and old world time periods. As a kid, I loved King Arthur and, as you can imagine, was giddy about the “The Lord of The Rings” movies… So the concept of “charging” my kids to live a life worthy of God sinks to my core.
If God is my heavenly Father, is this one way I should expect Him to operate in my own life? Does Father look for ways to encourage, comfort and urge me into a transformed life?
Look how The Message version puts it:
I Thessalonians 2:11-12 (The Message)
With each of you we were like a father with his child, holding your hand, whispering encouragement, showing you step-by-step how to live well before God, who called us into his own kingdom, into this delightful life
My guess is this is how Paul defines biblical fatherhood. As their father, look how he opens the letter to them:
I Thessalonians 1:2 (New Living Translation)
We always thank God for all of you and pray for you constantly.
Ouch! I can say that I don’t always thank God for my children (although I am certainly thankful for them) and pray for them constantly. I find myself only praying for them after I’ve been in a time of conflict with them, or when I’ve had a special time with them. I need to resolve to pray for them more, every day because that’s what a father is supposed to do!
James 5 tells us that “…. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.” The recipe for a righteous man is all through the Bible, but that’s another blog! Let’s just say that the principle for praying for our children is very scriptural!
Let’s tie the 1 Thess 2:11-12 with Deuteronomy 11:18-19 which says:
Deuteronomy 11:18-19 (NIV)
18 Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 19 Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.
All of a sudden, I’m starting to get a clear picture of the model, the map – so to speak. “Talking… when you sit down (together)… when you walk… when you lie down… when you get up.” That’s a lot of talking!
1 Thessalonians 2:18-19 (NIV)
19 For what is our hope, our joy, or the crown in which we will glory in the presence of our Lord Jesus when he comes? Is it not you? 20 Indeed, you are our glory and joy.
As a father takes pride and whose glory and joy are his children, so does Paul. I fear that not many parents take pride in their children. I fear not many parents glory in their children or have joy in their children. I wonder if there is a direct correlation between “talking…” (Deut 11:18-19) and “taking glory…” (I Thess 2:18-19)?
Interesting observation, there are no conditions in his joy. Paul does not say “Indeed, you are my pride and joy when you observe the laws of the LORD and live a life worth of God.” Even though, that’s what his goal for them is, his joy is not tied to their performance or their deeds.
His children’s actions do not control the thermostat of Paul’s devotion to them. My actions do not control the thermostat of Father God’s devotion to me. My children’s actions (or lack thereof) shouldn’t control the thermostat of mine devotion either.
Second observation, these Thessalonians are more like adopted children than biological children. This is significant to me personally because I have both biological children and adopted children. It is significant to all of us because we are ALL “adopted” into Father God’s family.
Colossians 3:21 (NIV)
21Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.
1 Thess 3:2-3, 10 (NIV)
2 We sent Timothy, who is our brother and God’s fellow worker[a]in spreading the gospel of Christ, to strengthen and encourage you in your faith, 3 so that no one would be unsettled by these trials. You know quite well that we were destined for them.
10 Night and day we pray most earnestly that we may see you again and supply what is lacking in your faith.
Again, more direction in Fatherhood via Paul…
- Strengthening and encouraging our children in their faith.
- Supplying what they lack in their faith.
What? Wow! I am supposed to supply what they lack in their faith? How cool is that! The implication is that I can provide the faith they need until they are mature enough and deep enough in their relationship with Christ to have the faith they need.
That also means that Father God will supply what I lack in my faith. When my faith is weak, He will supply what I need until I am mature enough or my relationship with Him is back on track enough to provide the needed faith (which I think is only the size of a mustard seed…)
Running After Papa…